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Sunday, November 28, 2010
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Connection? OR RN Director and Clergy Person or Law Enforcement Person
This comparison is very simple, and quite unsophisticated it simple represents my own thoughts and please understand the similarities that I see are my own perceptions. They could be inaccurate , however they eem real to me.
In our daily lives we sometimes feel that we are running a solo race and few if any others can understand the demands of our chosen professions. I surmised that perhaps we need to look, and here is what I found.
How are these vastly different professions even remotely alike? Not an easy comparision to most people. I had this thought while kyaking with my friend Ben. Ben is an Episicopal priest and I work as the director of a Surgical Services department. additionally my friend Bill is in law enforcement as is my old friend Skip. Some of the comparisons are somewhat simple, we work to fix things with people, try to save lives in some instances, and are dedicated to serving those that need us. These can be lofty goals and there are many roadblocks to acheiving our purpose.
I have conclude that while we are appreciated perhaps the clergy are more frequently exposed to praise. Great sermon is uttered with sincerity while thtnks for arresting me probably is not,.and I seem to be enforcing rules very often.
In the OR work place fixing people is relatively straight forward, we cut, take out, replace, patch and then sew it up. We have a high success rate with our work, or we would no longer be doing it. It is a highly competitive business and certainly patients can always be repaired at many other facilities. We have to treat our patients with care, compassion and be attentive to their additonal need as well as fixing thier repair problem. Our work in the OR is definitely appreciated but the surgeon is the one priased and we nurturee our selves just knowing that we are doing the right thing and doing it
In the church world the clergy face similiar challenges with their parishioners. They must be attentive to what needs to be fixed,provide attentive compassionate listening and provide assistance to repair what is not right. This is a major difference because it is not cut and dried. The intangible things that we as people need fixed by pur clergy are not black and white like the surgical interventions, provided in my line of work.
In law enforcement lives are proected, people are educated on safety and the hundreds of other tasks that fall to our portectors. We only see a smallportion of what any of these professions do on a daily basis.
we fix the tangible bodily problems, protect people for each other and unwise decisions, while the third deals with the soul and all contribute to the quality of life here on earth.
The objectives are never exactly clear but the purpose is to provide comfort and offer tools to improve the gifts of life possessed by the people we serve.
I would never want to truly be a clergy person because I would dislike having so many people trying to "help" and or tell me how to do my job. Parishioners all have a vested interest in thier clergy person, clearly they employ him or her. Therefore they should be allowed to offer suggestions on how to perform the duties related to the church they support. Right? They offer suggestions on sermon topics, how to organized the business side to running a church, and the list is endless. Serving the needs of those in need and those who offer help is a full time and difficult task. The job is rewarding, but not without some stress and what I could be deemed strangulations. I wish I could help save souls, but that is truly a job for a clergy professional.
Perhaps if I cam back as a much younger person I woudl choose the law, in fact when I was a teenager I dreamed of being a lawyer. Girls were seldom police officers when I was growing up. Today the possibilities are endless.
Oops, now this becomes more clear. My job as the director in a hospital has some distinct similiarities. The staff, patients, physicians and other departments within the hospital system are all able to offer suggestions on how to perform the duties releated to the operation of the surgical suite. This profession also has many people interested in the outcomes and concerned that it is done correctly. My job as I view it, is to listen carefully, use the good suggestions, consider the others and thoughtfully disect them before I either use or disgard them.
these professions serve many, both customers and bosses. Our professions are truly a calling, or the individuals involved would not be effective. this is of course my personal opinion but while serving many masters here in our earthly jobs we still are held to the higher power that has placed us where we are on this earth.
These particular thought were prompted by first a feeling that no one could understand my job, (poor me) and secondly a reality check that there are many others in this world that have the same stresses and challenges on a daily basis. There is strength in knowing that and peace in the thoughts that I have support not only in my own professional world but with others in very different appreaing professions. It is up to me to make the connections and draw on the strengths and support I can use and provide to others.
I certainly welcome comments and suggestions
In our daily lives we sometimes feel that we are running a solo race and few if any others can understand the demands of our chosen professions. I surmised that perhaps we need to look, and here is what I found.
How are these vastly different professions even remotely alike? Not an easy comparision to most people. I had this thought while kyaking with my friend Ben. Ben is an Episicopal priest and I work as the director of a Surgical Services department. additionally my friend Bill is in law enforcement as is my old friend Skip. Some of the comparisons are somewhat simple, we work to fix things with people, try to save lives in some instances, and are dedicated to serving those that need us. These can be lofty goals and there are many roadblocks to acheiving our purpose.
I have conclude that while we are appreciated perhaps the clergy are more frequently exposed to praise. Great sermon is uttered with sincerity while thtnks for arresting me probably is not,.and I seem to be enforcing rules very often.
In the OR work place fixing people is relatively straight forward, we cut, take out, replace, patch and then sew it up. We have a high success rate with our work, or we would no longer be doing it. It is a highly competitive business and certainly patients can always be repaired at many other facilities. We have to treat our patients with care, compassion and be attentive to their additonal need as well as fixing thier repair problem. Our work in the OR is definitely appreciated but the surgeon is the one priased and we nurturee our selves just knowing that we are doing the right thing and doing it
In the church world the clergy face similiar challenges with their parishioners. They must be attentive to what needs to be fixed,provide attentive compassionate listening and provide assistance to repair what is not right. This is a major difference because it is not cut and dried. The intangible things that we as people need fixed by pur clergy are not black and white like the surgical interventions, provided in my line of work.
In law enforcement lives are proected, people are educated on safety and the hundreds of other tasks that fall to our portectors. We only see a smallportion of what any of these professions do on a daily basis.
we fix the tangible bodily problems, protect people for each other and unwise decisions, while the third deals with the soul and all contribute to the quality of life here on earth.
The objectives are never exactly clear but the purpose is to provide comfort and offer tools to improve the gifts of life possessed by the people we serve.
I would never want to truly be a clergy person because I would dislike having so many people trying to "help" and or tell me how to do my job. Parishioners all have a vested interest in thier clergy person, clearly they employ him or her. Therefore they should be allowed to offer suggestions on how to perform the duties related to the church they support. Right? They offer suggestions on sermon topics, how to organized the business side to running a church, and the list is endless. Serving the needs of those in need and those who offer help is a full time and difficult task. The job is rewarding, but not without some stress and what I could be deemed strangulations. I wish I could help save souls, but that is truly a job for a clergy professional.
Perhaps if I cam back as a much younger person I woudl choose the law, in fact when I was a teenager I dreamed of being a lawyer. Girls were seldom police officers when I was growing up. Today the possibilities are endless.
Oops, now this becomes more clear. My job as the director in a hospital has some distinct similiarities. The staff, patients, physicians and other departments within the hospital system are all able to offer suggestions on how to perform the duties releated to the operation of the surgical suite. This profession also has many people interested in the outcomes and concerned that it is done correctly. My job as I view it, is to listen carefully, use the good suggestions, consider the others and thoughtfully disect them before I either use or disgard them.
these professions serve many, both customers and bosses. Our professions are truly a calling, or the individuals involved would not be effective. this is of course my personal opinion but while serving many masters here in our earthly jobs we still are held to the higher power that has placed us where we are on this earth.
These particular thought were prompted by first a feeling that no one could understand my job, (poor me) and secondly a reality check that there are many others in this world that have the same stresses and challenges on a daily basis. There is strength in knowing that and peace in the thoughts that I have support not only in my own professional world but with others in very different appreaing professions. It is up to me to make the connections and draw on the strengths and support I can use and provide to others.
I certainly welcome comments and suggestions
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Sunday, October 3, 2010
Reality TV or Ozzie and Harriet Illusionary TV
Getting older brings many things beyond aches and pains. It gives us years of memories, learning and growing and all the things that contribute to those activities. Love, joy, anger, pain, health disease and so forth are all included.
What were we taught about our world when I was younger.?
I grew up in a small town and although My family always expected me to go on to college, I was the first in my entire family to complete college and even then did not finish until after I had children. It was an expectation that I would go to school and do something, yet the time and place where I grew up did little if anything to prepare me for real life. In my Home Economics class, we learned to to the basic cooking, sewing etc. And also were encouraged to maintain our appearance at all times. Looking our best for our "husbands" was part of our life expectations learned in that class. This assumed that we would marry, and be wives first in deference to our husbands. I can remember watching Leave it to Beaver, Ozzie and Harriet, and other programs, where the wife was always dressed up and waiting for her husband to come home, at which time she greeted him and then waited on him. The family always ate dinner together, generally harmoniously. The went to church on Sundays, I never saw the siblings do more than tease each other mildly.
What great training for married life! I loved my husband deeply, and when we decided we wanted to have children to share our love even more it was something we truly did want. We had Gregg and Jason and then a reality show would have been good. Real kids fight, scream and then there was what today is called Post Partum Depression. Thenyis was it is OK honey, you will be fine, just keep busy. Well life did not work that way. The training acquired from our world did not teach us to communicate nor did it prepare us to deal with real life issues. We did not know that marriage was hard work. No one told us about that. I was told to just keep my husband happy, but when you are crying all day that is hard. Life fell apart and we hurt each other, hurt our children. I know I can't change what happened then, I will have guilt lingering in the wings forever over it, but I feel I need to move on and improve how we teach our young.
It isn't anyone persons fault and it happened years ago, so why talk about it today? Well it is because we still aren't teaching our children and young people as well as we should. This is evidenced by the increasing number of senseless crimes committed due to bullying, hate and rage. We still are not teaching the young how to solve real life problems. We still avoid the issues, and many parents are trying so hard to just survive they do not even have the strength to really teach their children. We need to help each other. At least in todays reality TV people fight, discuss and attack problems in an effort to solve them. Their motivations are not love and harmony but they do work at resolution.
Reality TV is an exaggeration of contrived lives and illusionary TV was just as contrived.
God teaches us to listen, hear and see our world. We need to teach each other how to do this to have transparent communications, real conversations about difficult topics and offer ways to discuss these topics. Resolution can be found.
I remarried, and nearly failed again because I did not still know how to have those crucial conversations, turn to God and the professionals he has given us and above all realize that life does not just happen, we make choices each and every day that shapes it.
now my question how do we make a difference in the lives of your Grandchildren, our neighbors the young people we work with? I know that one way is to live accountable lives, talk honestly and truly speak, hear, and act with love. We need to be present in our interactions with others and ask God to help and help and help. I believe we can make a difference one person at a time and I pray I will find a way to make this a bigger thing. I am open to suggestions
Like other posts this will have additions as the thoughts come. for now Please God, teach me to be present and have the conversations when I need to and hear and act in a way that will do your will.
Getting older brings many things beyond aches and pains. It gives us years of memories, learning and growing and all the things that contribute to those activities. Love, joy, anger, pain, health disease and so forth are all included.
What were we taught about our world when I was younger.?
I grew up in a small town and although My family always expected me to go on to college, I was the first in my entire family to complete college and even then did not finish until after I had children. It was an expectation that I would go to school and do something, yet the time and place where I grew up did little if anything to prepare me for real life. In my Home Economics class, we learned to to the basic cooking, sewing etc. And also were encouraged to maintain our appearance at all times. Looking our best for our "husbands" was part of our life expectations learned in that class. This assumed that we would marry, and be wives first in deference to our husbands. I can remember watching Leave it to Beaver, Ozzie and Harriet, and other programs, where the wife was always dressed up and waiting for her husband to come home, at which time she greeted him and then waited on him. The family always ate dinner together, generally harmoniously. The went to church on Sundays, I never saw the siblings do more than tease each other mildly.
What great training for married life! I loved my husband deeply, and when we decided we wanted to have children to share our love even more it was something we truly did want. We had Gregg and Jason and then a reality show would have been good. Real kids fight, scream and then there was what today is called Post Partum Depression. Thenyis was it is OK honey, you will be fine, just keep busy. Well life did not work that way. The training acquired from our world did not teach us to communicate nor did it prepare us to deal with real life issues. We did not know that marriage was hard work. No one told us about that. I was told to just keep my husband happy, but when you are crying all day that is hard. Life fell apart and we hurt each other, hurt our children. I know I can't change what happened then, I will have guilt lingering in the wings forever over it, but I feel I need to move on and improve how we teach our young.
It isn't anyone persons fault and it happened years ago, so why talk about it today? Well it is because we still aren't teaching our children and young people as well as we should. This is evidenced by the increasing number of senseless crimes committed due to bullying, hate and rage. We still are not teaching the young how to solve real life problems. We still avoid the issues, and many parents are trying so hard to just survive they do not even have the strength to really teach their children. We need to help each other. At least in todays reality TV people fight, discuss and attack problems in an effort to solve them. Their motivations are not love and harmony but they do work at resolution.
Reality TV is an exaggeration of contrived lives and illusionary TV was just as contrived.
God teaches us to listen, hear and see our world. We need to teach each other how to do this to have transparent communications, real conversations about difficult topics and offer ways to discuss these topics. Resolution can be found.
I remarried, and nearly failed again because I did not still know how to have those crucial conversations, turn to God and the professionals he has given us and above all realize that life does not just happen, we make choices each and every day that shapes it.
now my question how do we make a difference in the lives of your Grandchildren, our neighbors the young people we work with? I know that one way is to live accountable lives, talk honestly and truly speak, hear, and act with love. We need to be present in our interactions with others and ask God to help and help and help. I believe we can make a difference one person at a time and I pray I will find a way to make this a bigger thing. I am open to suggestions
Like other posts this will have additions as the thoughts come. for now Please God, teach me to be present and have the conversations when I need to and hear and act in a way that will do your will.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Living Faithfully: Greatful Living
Living Faithfully: Greatful Living: "I have been thinking a lot about being thankful lately. Especially since the “cold front” came through on Sunday, preceded by the wonderful ..."
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Keep Breathing
This truly is the secret to living a long life, You must keep breathing.
I think I will continue to add to this for a few days and see where it takes me. I understand that when people give up and quit trying they die. This may not be a an actual physical death but it certainly is a death of sorts. When people no longer have a reason to get up in the morning is when they start to wither. I have watched many people over the years retire with no hobbies, realy activites or interests and then there they are--stagnent. They literally were what the jobs were, and without them the purpose in life wains.
Tomorrow If only Closed Minds came with Closed mouths and other things we think and never say. Or at least out loud
I think I will continue to add to this for a few days and see where it takes me. I understand that when people give up and quit trying they die. This may not be a an actual physical death but it certainly is a death of sorts. When people no longer have a reason to get up in the morning is when they start to wither. I have watched many people over the years retire with no hobbies, realy activites or interests and then there they are--stagnent. They literally were what the jobs were, and without them the purpose in life wains.
Tomorrow If only Closed Minds came with Closed mouths and other things we think and never say. Or at least out loud
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